Your journey doesn't start with becoming someone new. It starts with unbecoming everything that was never you to begin with.
The Process of Unbecoming
For anyone who has ever felt exhausted by the endless treadmill of self-improvement, The Process of Unbecoming offers a radical and liberating alternative. This is not a book about adding more to your life; it is a compassionate guide to peeling back the layers of who you are not, so you can finally rest in who you are.
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Have you ever felt like you’re doing all the work, but getting nowhere?Â
You’ve followed the advice, set the goals, and chased the dreams. You’ve tried to meditate more, hustle harder, and think more positively. But if you’re honest, you still feel a quiet sense of emptiness, a feeling that no matter what you achieve, it’s never quite enough. You’re not alone. The problem isn’t you—it’s the paradigm. The constant pressure to become is the very thing keeping you from being whole.
A New Path Forward: The Process of Unbecoming
In this paradigm-shifting book, psychotherapist and writer Lacey K. Kelly, LCSW, reveals the truth she discovered on her own journey from relentless striving to profound peace: true transformation is not about addition, but subtraction. It’s the
courageous process of letting go of the conditioning, expectations, and identities that have been weighing you down.
The Process of Unbecoming is your permission slip to stop trying so hard. It is a map back to the wisdom that already exists within you, offering a blend of profound spiritual philosophy, practical psychology, and the raw, honest truth of what it means to be human.
This book is for you if:
- You are tired of the hustle and the endless pressure to “level up.”
- You feel a disconnect between the life you’ve built and the person you are inside.
- You are ready to trade self-improvement for self-discovery.
- You crave a more authentic, aligned, and peaceful way of living.
A Guide to Coming Home to Yourself
Inside The Process of Unbecoming you will find:
- The Seven Principles of Unbecoming: The foundational shifts in perspective that will change the way you see yourself and the world.
- The Myth of the Broken Self: Why you are not broken and have never needed fixing—only remembering.
- The Nature of a Spiritual Crisis: How to recognize when a mental health struggle is actually a cry from your soul for deeper connection.
- Practical Tools for Integration: How to move beyond intellectual understanding and embody this work in your daily life through somatic practices and gentle inquiry.
- A Path to Lasting Peace: How to find a sense of wholeness that isn’t dependent on your external circumstances.
Begin Your Process of Unbecoming
Get The Process of Unbecoming
If you are ready to stop trying so hard, to feel more at ease in your life, and feel at home with yourself, this book is for you. The Process of Unbecoming is the perfect entry point into the Unbecoming You ecosystem. It lays the complete philosophical foundation for all the courses, coaching, and community work. Start your journey here.
About the Author
Lacey K. Kelly is a psychotherapist, writer, and teacher who has spent her life exploring the intersection of psychology and spirituality. After years spent chasing achievement, she realized that the relentless pursuit of becoming was the source of her suffering. This led her to develop the philosophy and practice of unbecoming, a path she now shares through her writing, courses, and clinical work.
Praise for The Process of Unbecoming
Lisa A.
“This book felt like a deep exhale I didn’t know I was holding. It gave me permission to stop striving and just be. Life-changing.”
Sarah T.
“Lacey’s writing is like having a conversation with a wise, compassionate friend who truly gets it. I saw myself on every page.”
Adam K.
“Finally, a self-help book that isn’t about self-improvement. It’s about self- remembrance. A must-read for anyone tired of the hustle.”
